Why Gratitude, Though??

A grounded reflection to begin our Reflection + Gratitude Challenge

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We talk a lot about gratitude like it’s simple — like we can just throw ourselves into thankfulness while juggling life, kids, trauma, spiritual awakenings, and whatever fresh chaos the week brought. But the truth is, gratitude isn’t our natural default, especially when the nervous system has lived through stress or survival mode. Still, it’s one of the fastest ways to bring ourselves back home. So this is where we start.

Grati-i-tude

(noun): the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness

Even though gratitude is defined as a noun, it surely feels more like an action. It’s often spurred by a moment of reflection bringing about a feeling of appreciation for the blessings—no matter how big or small—that gracefully join us on our daily adventures.

“Gratitude might be a noun, but it lives like a verb." It only shows up when we do.

It’s easy to get sucked into the chaoticness of our mundane days: clearing the to-do lists, problem-solving, and managing all of the things. Sometimes it can feel never-ending. Finding moments to stop and reflect can easily get lost in these busy days.

And let’s be real… being grateful isn’t always the easiest.It requires a shift of perspective — noticing what’s right in your world instead of what’s not.

Have you ever noticed that it’s easy to get swept away with what doesn’t feel good, even though that’s not what you want for yourself? Yeaaaaa… we all know this one.

Your brain isn’t being dramatic — it’s being protective.

(Psssttt… there’s a scientific reason for this just in case you’re wondering 😊 And if you’re not, you’re finna learn today!!)

That’s because our nervous system doesn’t make it any easier for us. Its main role is to detect danger (most commonly psychological) and keep you safe. So when that chaotic day hits and overwhelm steals the show, the nervous system kicks into high alert (aka fight or flight via sympathetic activation) in hopes of getting you out of that situation.

This is why it takes so much effort to feel what’s right and almost no effort at all to fixate on what hurts.

(Okaaaay, the juicy science fact is over and done with guys.)

I’ll also add the fun fact that research conducted by the Gottman Institute shows that it takes FIVE positive comments to override one negative comment.

This just confirms that annoying habit of the nervous system to over-emphasize what doesn’t feel good.

I get it… it’s for a good reason, but damn — the nervous system could chill a little, right??

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Why Gratitude Matters Anyway

The act of practicing gratitude brings us back to center, calling our energy back home as we bring attention and presence to our lives instead of the fifty-eleven other things that are stressing us the hell out.

This does require effort, but in time it simply becomes a natural inclination.

The nervous system loves efficiency. What you repeat becomes what you default to.

Spoiler alert: another science fact (my fav btw)…

The more you create space and intentionally practice gratitude, the more automatic the practice becomes and the less effort it requires. So… stick with it. Use environmental cues (time of day, a calming breath, a specific environment) to help the nervous system catch on faster.

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This season asks us to look at more than just the bright, shiny parts — it asks us to slow down, notice what we’ve been carrying, honor what’s shifted, and get honest about what’s ready to grow next.

Over the next few reflections, we’ll explore:

• What this year has really asked of you (and what you learned along the way)

• How gratitude and grief can exist side by side without overwhelming you

• How to prepare your mind, body, and energy for the new year ahead

  
  

These pieces build the foundation for the Reflection + Gratitude Challenge, a grounding practice for moving through the holidays with presence, clarity, and a lot more ease.

Wishing you gentleness, clarity, and moments of real presence as we move through this season.

With Love,

Sage